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12 Oct 2010

A certain sweetness

It's been such a thrill today to welcome a guest for tea tonight - Ellie's guest, that is. Amy is the sweetest, most lovable creature I have ever had the honour of meeting. Hers and Ellie's souls are the same. They both talk in hushed, girly tones and have the most beautiful innocence that you don't often see in 14/12 year olds these days. I love that Ellie doesn't know that Amy has issues as much as I love that Amy doesn't know Ellie has issues. All they know is that they get along, like their DS's and love dogs. Ellie is is not fussed that she is almost 3 years older than Amy and I'm not fussed either. What made me so happy tonight was hearing them two chat about something or nothing; allowing each other to wander off to sit in a corners for a while without either of them wondering what they were doing. Ellie likes her space and Amy likes hers. Amy kept coming to see me for reassurance and I asked her if she was enjoying herself to which she replied "well, I don't think I want to go home just yet". That's fine with me, I thought - worrying that she might suddenly start to miss home with her sweet fragility.

I spoke with Amy's father about him coming to collect her on the phone. He asked for our address and he said "Oh, I know that house" and I thought nothing of it. All I know is that his name is Terry. I'd met his wife Gaynor (Amy's mum) the other day when we went to collect eggs and hold baby chicks. And when he turned up he said "Ive been here before. In fact I know your father in law". It wasn't until he mentioned my father in law that I realised he must be THE Terry that my father in law talks so fondly of. I was taken aback and absolutely delighted that Amy's dad is someone we kind of knew. I introduced Mark to him and Mark was delighted that Amy's dad is someone who came to cap our fireplace off a few years back and that he was linked to the family through business. Me? I'm just glad that not only does our daughter have a lovely new friend but that at least we have some affinity with her lovely parents. It was all quite bizarre, if not surreal.

Its been very hard for us getting to know people in this area. We have lived here 7 years but getting to know other mums has been difficult. I wasn't stupid when I saw people giving us a wide berth because we pitched up a primary school with Ellie in a pushchair. I understood why they did it but it really did satb my aching heart. Ellie was not a sick or mentally retarded kid but she was different and still is. So I found it difficult to make friends in this town because of that. And even though Mark is initially from this area he lost touch with all his buddies when he joined the Army and now he is settled back here, they have upped sticks and moved on. You can imagine whats its been like having a real live person to talk to and chat with about ours kids lives since Ellie met Amy and I met her Mum. Its been a total and utter relief if I am honest. I can't believe its taken 7 years for that to happen but it has.

Anyway, I wanted to share this picture of Amy so you can get to meet her too. Ellie thinks the world of her and in fact, today, she took Amy outside at lunchtime (at school) for some sun. Ive drilled it into Ellie get some sun on her skin as she if vitamin d deficient. Amy is not good with crowds (neither is Ellie to a certain extent) but Ellie insisted on taking her out of the comforts of Room 23 and into Ellie's world. I was chuffed to bits that Ellie took this upon herself to take Amy outside today, albeit for just 20 minutes but still....... they are opening up new worlds for each other and boy has that been a long time coming too. I wish Amy had come along seven years ago but there is no time like the present, is there? :)

16 comments:

Cyndi said...

My 12yo daughter has an undiagnosed disorder and is also different, and incredibly sweet and innocent. How I would love for her to find a friend, and me too. I know exactly what you mean, and it is frustrating! So glad that you girls have all found one another.

Bettyann said...

oh love I am so glad that you all have found friends..Ellie deserves the best and the universe was waiting for the right moment and it is now..I am smiling from ear to ear !! take care sweetie Ellie !!!

Candace said...

There is nothing like the feeling you experience when your child blossoms

Hugs x

Anonymous said...

It's always good when you have someone to take to - whether you're an adult, child or "inbetweeny". I'm so pleased that both you and Ellie seem to have found that someone. Jude.x

Julia said...

Isn't it wonderful how life can suddenly suprise you and make your heart sing! Really pleased for Ellie, Amy and you Kirsty! x

Sue said...

Think you summed up Ellie and Amy by saying they have the same souls. How lovely that they have such a wonderful friendship and that because of it you and Amy's parents have also found like minded adults.

Fiona said...

Great news that you and Ellie have both found friends that mean so much.

DGgirl said...

Hi Kirsty

In my experience, children are often the best teachers of other children as it's the ultimate no pressure experience.

Gillx

SDCrafts said...

Here's my day so far:

1 - the start of root canal work from dentist who is an angel, so gentle, so caring, so NOTHING like I have ever experienced before

2 - watching footage of the first Chilean miners to be rescued

3 - reading this darling post - I am so pleased for you all Kirsty, I really am. And ll the while, it was meant to be, for this time, for you, NOW

So, 13.10.10 - when I am (even) older, I will say, yes I remember that day, with Ellie, Amy & Kirsty part of that memory.

Bless you.

Little Celtic Fairy said...

how fabby to read that Ellie has a new friend - hope she has lots of wonderful times with Amy!

today I bought Crafts Beautiful - and a familiar face was staring out of page 103, with this awesomely cute doggy...
Great page you have there and like the idea of the handmade wrapping paper. Fab!

Sally-jo said...

Yet again another beautiful photograph and beautiful post, you are so honest about life xxx

cla16e said...

What a lovely time for them to find each other, they sound a lovely family but just remember they are probably saying the exact same about you and your family. They'll feel just the same way & will be singing your praises too.

Debo said...

What a lovely post to read!

Sometimes things do take time to happen but how much more you appreciate them when they do.

Amy has the same look of innocence with a hint of fun that Ellie has. How much better the world would be with more Amy and Ellies in it!!!

Anonymous said...

sometimes things just happen...and sometimes people come into your life just at the right time...hopeellies friendship (and yours with her parents) continue to grow
take care xx

Anonymous said...

disability or problems shouldnt exclude people from having friends and so thankfully you can now all move on from here and those girls can make bigger and bolder statements about moving out of a room they possibly dont even need to enter again. Wonderful stuff! Maybe they could join the guides or similar together and do real world things together and with others and show people there is nothing to be afraid of if they meet somebody whom they consdier to be different. Gone are the days of wrapped in cotton wool or treated like they are lepers. Lovely to see they are growing into mature young people with sensible attitudes

Sharon said...

How lovely for Ellie to have a lovely friend. Hope you're well. Take care, Sharon x x x