It's been such a thrill today to welcome a guest for tea tonight - Ellie's guest, that is. Amy is the sweetest, most lovable creature I have ever had the honour of meeting. Hers and Ellie's souls are the same. They both talk in hushed, girly tones and have the most beautiful innocence that you don't often see in 14/12 year olds these days. I love that Ellie doesn't know that Amy has issues as much as I love that Amy doesn't know Ellie has issues. All they know is that they get along, like their DS's and love dogs. Ellie is is not fussed that she is almost 3 years older than Amy and I'm not fussed either. What made me so happy tonight was hearing them two chat about something or nothing; allowing each other to wander off to sit in a corners for a while without either of them wondering what they were doing. Ellie likes her space and Amy likes hers. Amy kept coming to see me for reassurance and I asked her if she was enjoying herself to which she replied "well, I don't think I want to go home just yet". That's fine with me, I thought - worrying that she might suddenly start to miss home with her sweet fragility.
I spoke with Amy's father about him coming to collect her on the phone. He asked for our address and he said "Oh, I know that house" and I thought nothing of it. All I know is that his name is Terry. I'd met his wife Gaynor (Amy's mum) the other day when we went to collect eggs and hold baby chicks. And when he turned up he said "Ive been here before. In fact I know your father in law". It wasn't until he mentioned my father in law that I realised he must be THE Terry that my father in law talks so fondly of. I was taken aback and absolutely delighted that Amy's dad is someone we kind of knew. I introduced Mark to him and Mark was delighted that Amy's dad is someone who came to cap our fireplace off a few years back and that he was linked to the family through business. Me? I'm just glad that not only does our daughter have a lovely new friend but that at least we have some affinity with her lovely parents. It was all quite bizarre, if not surreal.
Its been very hard for us getting to know people in this area. We have lived here 7 years but getting to know other mums has been difficult. I wasn't stupid when I saw people giving us a wide berth because we pitched up a primary school with Ellie in a pushchair. I understood why they did it but it really did satb my aching heart. Ellie was not a sick or mentally retarded kid but she was different and still is. So I found it difficult to make friends in this town because of that. And even though Mark is initially from this area he lost touch with all his buddies when he joined the Army and now he is settled back here, they have upped sticks and moved on. You can imagine whats its been like having a real live person to talk to and chat with about ours kids lives since Ellie met Amy and I met her Mum. Its been a total and utter relief if I am honest. I can't believe its taken 7 years for that to happen but it has.
Anyway, I wanted to share this picture of Amy so you can get to meet her too. Ellie thinks the world of her and in fact, today, she took Amy outside at lunchtime (at school) for some sun. Ive drilled it into Ellie get some sun on her skin as she if vitamin d deficient. Amy is not good with crowds (neither is Ellie to a certain extent) but Ellie insisted on taking her out of the comforts of Room 23 and into Ellie's world. I was chuffed to bits that Ellie took this upon herself to take Amy outside today, albeit for just 20 minutes but still....... they are opening up new worlds for each other and boy has that been a long time coming too. I wish Amy had come along seven years ago but there is no time like the present, is there? :)